Here are a few common Food and Drink questions and my advice. Answers to popular wedding etiquette questions can also apply to other formal celebrations.
Q. How do you handle vegetarian guests at a sit down dinner?
A. You should try to accommodate for your vegetarian friends as well as any others with special diet needs. When planning a sit down dinner, advise your caterer or restaurant about your vegetarian guests. Design a menu that offers savory and filling vegetarian foods such as eggplant lasagna or spinach quiche that all your guests will enjoy. Another option to help out the vegetarians is to include hearty side dishes so the wait staff can quickly make full portion plates of vegetarian side dishes.
Q. Should I have a kids’ menu?
A. If you include children to a special event then it is only proper to consider their food and drink options. Work with your caterer. Let them know how many children to prepare for and the age range. The food can still be formal yet simple to please young palates. Remember to keep spices mild. Also, make a special menu card with some kind of activity. Include a word game or outlined picture that can be colored.
Q. For a wedding or formal affair is a cash bar acceptable?
A. When it comes to very special occasions, guests should not be expected to pay for their drinks. If you have a limited budget then consider the following options. Offer house wines, beer, and soft drinks. Skip the premium liquor and serve well drinks. You will end up saving 10% – 15%. Limit the time the bar is open during the cocktail reception and then only serve house wine and champagne at dinner.
Q. Is it obligatory to feed the photographer, musicians and valet?
A. It is not easy for anyone to work a long shift on an empty stomach. Keep everyone happy and energized with a plate of food. Make arrangements ahead of time with your caterer to have something less expensive prepared such as salad, pasta or sandwiches or if there is extra food leftover have doggie bags made.
Get Emily Post’s Wedding Etiquette for a great and useful guide.
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